No really, I AM a nice girl!
I like to think that fun porn-type stuff like that is just an add-on to already good sex. If "normal" sex is vanilla, porn inspired kink is the toppings. I don't want to only have vanilla ice cream, but I don't want to eat a bowl of sprinkles.
I can't decide how I feel about the Jezebel article "How Porn Ruined Sex." The thesis is that because guys have been watching porn since they were 10, their conception of good sex is so skewed that they pretty much only appreciate kinky, fetishy things and that because of the evil porn, women are forced to do things they don't want to do. I'm also kind of psyched cause I know the girl from the opening anecdote from my freshman dorm. I think.
Like pretty dumb things said, the article works off the assumption that there's no intersection between anything you see in porn and anything girls want to do. Um I secretly wish I was a porn star. Not really, but you know what I mean. I'm excited that my new digicam takes video, is all I'm saying. I have a schoolgirl skirt I would never wear in public. I have handcuffs. Not gonna lie, sometimes I love acting like a porn star.
I guess I was a naive little ho because I thought I could just do whatever I wanted and that maybe someone would, I dunno, like that about me. That didn't work out so well. Why would a virile, sexy guy throw away the cute, smart, sexy girl that can't get enough of him and who genuinely loves indulging him for the girl who had no interest, who he had to beg for it?
The article says that because of porn women have to do slutty things they don't want to do to keep guys interested. But wanting to do them reduces you to fucking trash that isn't worth your time or respect. I feel like I talk about this all the time but it just infuriates me.
Later in the article there's a quote from a guy into S&M that says, "I do that to keep from getting too close to women." And you wonder why they're so reluctant. Again, maybe I'm just naive but I don't think it has to work that way.
I can't decide how I feel about the Jezebel article "How Porn Ruined Sex." The thesis is that because guys have been watching porn since they were 10, their conception of good sex is so skewed that they pretty much only appreciate kinky, fetishy things and that because of the evil porn, women are forced to do things they don't want to do. I'm also kind of psyched cause I know the girl from the opening anecdote from my freshman dorm. I think.
Like pretty dumb things said, the article works off the assumption that there's no intersection between anything you see in porn and anything girls want to do. Um I secretly wish I was a porn star. Not really, but you know what I mean. I'm excited that my new digicam takes video, is all I'm saying. I have a schoolgirl skirt I would never wear in public. I have handcuffs. Not gonna lie, sometimes I love acting like a porn star.
I guess I was a naive little ho because I thought I could just do whatever I wanted and that maybe someone would, I dunno, like that about me. That didn't work out so well. Why would a virile, sexy guy throw away the cute, smart, sexy girl that can't get enough of him and who genuinely loves indulging him for the girl who had no interest, who he had to beg for it?
The article says that because of porn women have to do slutty things they don't want to do to keep guys interested. But wanting to do them reduces you to fucking trash that isn't worth your time or respect. I feel like I talk about this all the time but it just infuriates me.
Later in the article there's a quote from a guy into S&M that says, "I do that to keep from getting too close to women." And you wonder why they're so reluctant. Again, maybe I'm just naive but I don't think it has to work that way.
Labels: aesthetics, bad decisions, boys, getting off, navel gazing
posted by Sarah at 3:03 PM
7 Comments:
Slutmachine has some fun to laugh with/at sex anecdotes, but I'm hardly going to take her advice on, well, anything.
I feel the same way, and from experience I really do believe that it DOESN'T always work that way. There are some really sweet guys out there who won't hold it against a girl for getting kinky when she wants to. Some of these guys won't even hold it against you if you sleep with them right away.
I don't feel sorry for the men who lose respect for a woman who asserts her sexuality, but they are missing out on a lot because of some stiff old fashioned thinking.
girl, we've got a lot in common.
you can take me home to meet your mom and she'll think i'm the sweetest thing, but when he and i are alone in the bedroom, ITS ON.
no holds barred. life's too short.
i'm into porn anyway, who cares if i dont lay there like a dead fish?
BIG SECRET:
Women LOVE porn, love kink
Now some GUYS can't handle that LOL
SO TIRED of prudes, the militant feminists who want to CONTROL my body, my viewing, all for the GOOD you see, GODDESS SAVE US FROM PRUDES
Put SMUT on TV, it will be a better country
First of all, I've watched porn many times, and there are certain types of porn i really don't like and wouldnt want to emulate. I can see how some of the kinkier, more 'degrading' things (like having the guy cum all over your face)could make a guy feel like 'normal' sex isn't enough..
But then, there are other things that some women find degrading that I actually think are hot... although I don't want him to cum onmy face, I'm good with him cumming on chest and stomach. Weird that i make a distinction, but there you go. Every girl has their inner porn star.. we all let it out in different ways.
And as long as you're with someone who really likes you, they appreciate your hot fudge sundae/ banana split/ whatever.. regardless of your toppings.
I think we can all agree that the sort of guy who'd lose respect for you if you want to do something that turns you both on is, well, worthless to you.
I'm definitely not anti-porn, but I do think you can tell by fucking a guy if he learned all he knows about sex from porn: I'll let him come anywhere he wants on me, but if that's all he cares about, it gets tiring, like he never learned to think for himself. I actually disagree with one of Slut Machine's points about how porn makes you want to do dirty, kinky things: I think that porn actually mainstreams every non-vanilla activity, so instead of feeling transgressive, your actions are just mimicking some movie, minus the fake tits. If you really want the pervy feeling, you have to really up the ante.
I think the point is that women should be having the kind of sex they actually want to have, not the kind of sex they think men want them to have.
So handcuffs? Sign me up. Dirty talk? Yes please? I'm not into rape fantasies. And that's all fine. And I shouldn't have to pretend in a desperate bid to make some loser like me. (Though some compromise and discussion is also cool in my book!)
And yeah, Slut Machine responded more or less in your vein, and unlike Ethical, I was all about her advice. But I believe everything I hear, so take that with a grain of salt.
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